Wow!! You certainly gave me an eyeful this morning!! A lot to digest here, so I hope you don't mind, but I'll take it one point at a time. Apologies for the extremely long post...
My personal snapchat stories are what i vent, do my thing, whatever. Im not going to be studied and picked aart for what i say- its your choice to follow or not... My comment was NOT regarding only the forum, however some men that literally call me screaming, threatening me or hrassing me because i dont respond- so sorry, if it seemed personal, it wasnt, i was just frusterated- with men calling me saying"i owe them" etc. But, surpirsed you followed me, with such clear disgust for me.
You're absolutely right! Your Snapchat "ads", or whatever you want to call them, are your own personal rant, and I would defend (to the end) your right to have a say! However, your video DID actually preface your comment by stating directly that it was about the comments made in the Forum. If it was meant to be a more general commentary about the abuse you take by assholes who scream at, threaten, or harass you in any way, your presentation did not make that clear. Especially since you'd already stated that your video was a response to the comments made on the Forum. I don't have any "disgust" for you at all. That is a definite misconception on your part, which I hope will be made clear in the remaining text of this message.
Also, I would also point out that the behaviour exhibited to you by some of the obvious Neandertals on the site does not reflect the more sensible clientele who are more interested in actually booking you for services. And, you're right! That sort of nonsense shouldn't be tolerated... by ANYONE!
As for you being "studied" and "picked apart", nothing could have been further from the truth. However, while you may feel that Snapchat is your own "personal" space to rant (and you're more than welcome to do so!), it IS a public space, and once you present an opinion, at that point, it becomes subject to open debate and discussion. You may not like that, but since you chose to make those comments, you should also be willing to accept criticism (and praise!) for your statements, just as you seem to expect me to do with your response to my message here on the Forum.
I will set my own prices- if im not getting clients, i will lower the, its not really your place to say how much i can or should charge- lol. im not sure how this turned into a "lets insult all of averys buisness decisions and personal qualities"
You're right! It's *not* my place to *tell* you how to run your personal business. I'm sorry if my suggestion came off that way. But it was just that... a suggestion. I don't see anything that was directed at you personally though. Certainly not anything you should have found "Insulting". You may mock the amount of experience I have in this industry, from the clients' side of things, but I've seen quite a number of SPs over the years, and it has been that experience with them that tells me what the general trend is with the rates most of them charge. I totally get that it's up to you how you choose to set your rates. My only intent here was to offer up a piece of advice to someone new in the industry, in the hopes that it would help you get lots of work (if that's your choice), and was no way an attempt to "control" how you do business. In the end, it's totally your choice how much you charge, just like, in the end, it's totally up to the client if they want to accept that rate and agree to do business with you. It's all about choice...
I was literally just trying to provide my input as to why we tak long to reply, iving healthy feedback... - instead, my entire precence on here- everything ive posted, said etc - was picked apart and ridiculued? I thought before i posted- maybe i shouldnt, they might make it personal. But, i thought- no, this is (hopefully) a safe forum, where we can just post our opinions and have a positive, constructive conversation- as adults
So! now i know, thanks, for taking all my personal- private decisions, making them public, and picking them apart! *my personal snap, prices, looks..etc like seriously?, im floored**
Your input is *more* than welcome, as always! However, Nothing you said was *ridiculed* in any way! You offered your input on what you felt were reasons why SP's might take longer to respond, or not respond at all. Granted, and accepted. And, I'm grateful for your comments! However, you also posted that you "have another job, a toddler, a house, etc"... you did that, **All on your own!!** And, I didn't even make a comment on any of that!! I also have to take exception to your assertion that I made any kind of remark about your looks, one way or the other. Frankly, since I've seen your snap photos (and I'm sure I'm not the only one), all I would say about your looks is that you're a beautiful young lady. However, up to this point, I have not made any comments about your looks one way or the other. To be honest, I generally don't make decisions on booking a session with an SP based solely on looks; in fact, it's mostly based on price, availability, and, most importantly, perception of the quality of service I would receive based on my contact with the provider. It's amazing what you can learn from someone based on their attitude when you make contact with them.
As for your perception that I'm picking apart your "entire presence" on here... I'm not sure where that's coming from at all!!! I commented on the comments you made in your video, and the comments you made here on the forum. By posting the video in the first place, on Snapchat, you made your opinions VERY public. Snapchat, Like Twitter, Facebook, and most other forms of social media, is NOT a "private" service, and anything you post on it becomes public domain, and open to ANYONE commenting on it. I chose to comment here, on the Forum, because what you said in your video was addressed to those of us who made complaints in the Forum, so I thought it was the appropriate place to respond.
Maybe your misconception of my "Picking apart" your life comes from my having quoted so much of your message when I posted my response. Clearly, you had no issue with "quoting" parts of my message when you responded, so you could further emphasize your own point, when it was necessary. I simply did the same. Only difference? You made a number of points that I felt I had to respond to, so I chose to include the text of your comments, so there was a base of reference. Several points made, several times I quoted a piece of your message. I've done the same thing in this message as well, but to a larger degree. Is that "picking apart" your very presence on the site?? Hardly! It's just the way I chose to respond to your message. And, your "safety" in posting to this (or any other) forum is never an issue here! You're free to post anything you want (within reason), safe in the knowledge that the worst that will happen here is that someone like myself might post a rebuttal. There will never be any screaming, threatening, or harassing language directed at you from me one way or the other. Keep in mind, though, that while you have every right to say what's on your mind in the forms (short of making threats against people), I have every right to offer up a commentary that may disagree with you. That's how "debate" and "discussion" work!
Beyond that, your prices are your prices. I certainly didn't "pick them apart" at all.
However, I did make the *general* statement that there have been a bunch of very brand new providers come on the site and charge overly expensive rates as soon as they hit the industry for the first time. I can also tell you that a lot of these ladies are no longer in the industry, and I can only guess that it was because they priced themselves out of the market way too early, while there are others that adjusted their prices accordingly, and are still in the industry doing quite well for themselves. However, as you and I have both stated at this point, it's not for me to tell you what to charge, and my message was more of a way of letting you now what I've seen from the thousands of ads that I've seen here in my time as a client, in the hopes that you could benefit from the advice. If it came across as anything other than that, then, again, I apologize.
Wasnt this, "why do we take too long to reply?" forum? Clearly, i have learnt i will no longer be responding or posting on here- but thanks for the positive, conversation. I definitley feel like i can voice my opinion- as usual. Why would we get to post our sides of things anyways?
Sarcasm aside, as mentioned earlier, you have every right (and freedom) to post your side of ANY discussion. I (and anyone else on here) have every right to disagree with any point you choose to make, and offer my own feelings on it. You have every right to comment on that commentary, etc, etc. You can post any opinion you have on this forum, and I will back you up on your right and ability to have your say. However, that doesn't mean that the things you say will go uncontested one way or the other. And, offering up a contrary opinion to your own does not necessarily constitute an attack on you. If you choose not to post, that will be rather unfortunate, but, at the end of the day, that is indeed your choice, and I will respect that choice either way. Just know, the forum is always here for you to have your say on any topic you choose to comment on.
All the best dudes- as im new and still learning, obviously you have the experience, etc. Give a girl a break- i was trying to provide inut as someone new thats super overwhlemed with messages. let me learn, if youd like to talk about my personal stuff on a forum about unresponsive adds, thats cool- just remmeber, i was tyring to be friendly, and engage in effectve, constructive conversation- not talk about my life... <3
Again, since you are admittedly new, and learning, I honestly and genuinely thought I was simply offering advice to someone who was open to praise and criticism equally. My mistake, and I apologize for the way I came off. If you want to learn (assumedly, on your own, by trial and error), then I won't impede that journey in any way, going forward. However, if I may be allowed one piece of advice in parting... don't assume anything you post in a PUBLIC forum (like social media outlets) is PRIVATE!
sooo... who wants to sleeover?? 7, 600 for the night!
So.. is that $7,600, or was it that you're available at 7:00, and $600 for the night? Can't really tell!!
Seriously, though... all the best to you! I definitely meant no harm in my original post, nor do I mean any with this one. And, I'm still open to having a visit with you at some point in the future, if(and when) the circumstances permit. Take care!